How/where did you meet your frugal spouse?

[ronb]

I'm looking for spots to pickup frugal women.

I'm kidding.. mostly.

What I want is a frugal partner. Just someone who shares the same values I do.

[scfr]

We met at work and knew each other for several years before we had our first date. I know you were kind of kidding, but perhaps a place where a woman is "picked up" is not the best place to meet a frugal woman?

[Bob B.]

I met my wife in college. I was a junior, she was a sophomore. We were married about two weeks after she graduated.

[phantom]

My husband is moderately frugal. I met him playing a board game.

I wasn't explicitly playing the board game as a way to meet guys. But, when my mom would nag me about spending less time playing games and more time looking for dates, I would point out that I was more likely to find a guy I wanted to date playing the game than in a bar.

In general, I think getting together with a group of people who share a hobby that reflects your values gives you a good chance of finding a partner who also holds those values. If frugality is important to you, pick an inexpensive hobby. If being active is important to you, pick an active hobby. If intellectual stimulation is important to you, pick a thinking hobby. Maybe you'll find someone in that group, or maybe someone in that group will set you up with a friend. Even if it doesn't go anywhere, at least you'll have spent time doing something you enjoy doing.

[MonkeyMama]

I met my husband at work, in college. Few of my peers worked. I've told my kids if they want to meet someone responsible/mature/compatible that's a good place to start. You know, just in thinking how on earth I was so lucky to meet someone so compatible, so young. It's kind of obvious if you think about it. That said, I understand it's also sticky to date someone you work with. But I am guilty and have dated many co-workers - is also where you meet a lot of people. It is what it is. Is not something I would necessarily entertain lightly as a professional, but was different as a teenager.

Other ideas: Hang out at the library? Walk around the neighborhood? My spouse does do a game meetup group, which is free and has met like minded people. Phantom's post reminded me of that. Getting involved in hobby groups. Volunteering would probably be a great way to meet people.

[LivingAlmostLarge]

He answered my roommate ad. Never moved out.

[avil_saver36]

I'm looking for spots to pickup frugal women.

I'm kidding.. mostly.

What I want is a frugal partner. Just someone who shares the same values I do.

I was raised in a lower middle class household. My spouse was raised in a borderline upper middle class/rich household. Her family is rich. My family skimped and saved all the way. As children, we rarely went out to eat (and when we did, it was some American version of fast food back home - this was maybe once a month), never took a real vacation (our vacations were visiting relatives who lived in the same city and playing out the whole day with friends), and rarely had anything new. I got my first computer when I was 19 and already in the engineering college.

My spouse's family had a huge house, took a few international vacations (almost unheard of at the time in my native place), had a couple of cars (again unheard of at the time and place), and all the material things that could be comforting.

Still, we met, loved each other, got married, and struggled financially. She had to literally adjust to having less money, less space, less of everything. First few years of marriage, she didn't know what budget meant. She was begrudging and unhappy at times because we didn't have "enough compared to peers". But we sailed that boat. Now, we are a financially responsible family and are on the same page of everything.

What I learned was that she did not mind having less money and less status as long as she loved me, was attracted to me, and respected me for things I could do. When you look for a spouse keep those things in mind. You do not go around finding a frugal spouse. Frugality can be developed as a result of circumstances, and your spouse may not have had to live those circumstances. Do not hold not being frugal against anyone. Look for love - the real deal. The rest follows.

[bjl584]

Met mine at the gym that I go to. Be both have an interest in fitness. It just so happens that she is an accountant. She has some debt in the form of student loans, but has a solid plan to pay them off. I think that's what drew me to her more than anything else.

[disneysteve]

I met my wife at a Halloween party in high school. I was 16.

[ExcuseMyIgnorance]

He answered my roommate ad. Never moved out.

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[ua_guy]

We met in a chat room. 12 years later and we're still together.

[disneysteve]

He answered my roommate ad. Never moved out.

As long as he always pays the rent on time.

[VinceMcMan]

I am not sure but I would say pizza places as well as grocery stores. I say this because you can easily know if they carry around a ton a coupons!
And if you see them using coupouns for every little thing like soda and fries.
Well then you found yourself a winner!

[amigo1989]

good luck with it

[WhiskeyGirl]

I'm looking for spots to pickup frugal women.

I'm kidding.. mostly.

What I want is a frugal partner. Just someone who shares the same values I do.

I am still searching for my life partner. At this point, it might be the singles cemetary where I finally meet Mr. Right.