Spoiled Children

[lorraineb]

I came across this. This girl is going to have some big issues when she has to fend for herself

[Petunia 100]

Maybe. Or maybe there is family money and she will always be able to afford her wants.

[LizfromtheBronx]

I agree that she seems pretty spoiled but blame that more on her parents. Who gives a 6 year old $500 a month? Even if there is family money, doesn't seem like they've taught her anything about the value of money.

My parents were very good to me growing up (and continue to be into my adulthood), but I also work hard for my own money and never take their generosity for granted. I'm incredibly grateful for everything they've done for me.

[Petunia 100]

Agreed, it does not seem as though she has been taught anything at all about the value of money, or hard work, or anything at all other than the importance of what name is on the label.

[Joan.of.the.Arch]

What an odd story for a newspaper to print.

[moneybags]

I agree that she seems pretty spoiled but blame that more on her parents. Who gives a 6 year old $500 a month?

I think the article says 16 year old, but still. My 16 year old gets $40/month.

[agarlits]

Since she has no formal financial education she will likely turn to credit to continue her obsession with shopping and maintaining a lifestyle that she cannot afford. She wont understand that debt must be payed back and will wonder why the world doesn't just give her what she wants. Her parents will likely bail her out the first few times that she gets into a debt situation but eventually her parents will either cut her off or reap the consequences of the monster they have created likely leading them to bankruptcy. Since she has no limit to what she wants and thinks she must have she will continue to spend until even a well off family will not be able to keep up with her. This is why it is important to teach your children that they must live within their means.

[snafu]

Different culture, different values and lifestyle where we're not participants. Think Paris Hilton for example. Miss Lin will marry a young man from a wealthy family who is being groomed to take over his father's business. Hopefully there will be a CFO and CEO who are actually in charge of making decisions for the figurehead/puppet President.

[freedomv]

Disturbing

Wow, that article is disturbing in so many levels...spoiled kid, over indulgent parents and who will they have to blame when she mooches off them for the rest of their lives. Her sense of entitlement is a product of her raising (or should I say lack there of).

It's really a shame she is trying so hard to find her worth in expensive *things* and apparently doesn't know how to have true satisfaction from a solid grounded work ethic, doing for others, personal accomplishments like a job well done and proudly standing on her own 2 feet.

Thank you Lord for all of us that don't have a child in the sad state this young woman is in.

[disneysteve]

spoiled kid, over indulgent parents

On the last Suze Orman show, she had a "Can I Afford It?" call from a 12-year-old girl who wanted to buy her 3rd pair of Uggs for $195. She said that she already had 2 pair and her mother said no to a 3rd. Suze denied her thankfully but what wasn't addressed in the call was why she had 2 pair in the first place. That means mom and dad said yes to the first 2 pairs of $195 boots for a 12-year-old which might have a lot to do with why she thought it was okay to be getting a 3rd pair. Had they said, "No way in hell are we buying you $195 boots!" when she asked the first time, the situation would never have gotten to this point.

I place the blame solidly on parents for not knowing how to say NO to their kids. We've created a generation that expects to get everything and anything they want. And I say that as a parent of a teenage girl so I'm not speaking from an ivory tower.

[Joan.of.the.Arch]

As I said, I think that is a strange "story" for a newspaper to publish.

It bothered me too, that this was circulating since October 2008. I was imagining the image of the article being circulated by email. And do I put any stock in email confabulations? NOPE.

So I did some looking around. The story was apparently first published by the Straits Times in Singapore. It was then re-published by at least two Singapore newspapers, including in their online editions, stirring up much gossip, and incensed judgment against the young woman.

Here is a link to an article giving the young woman's side of the story, and it is quite believable. Her story is very different than what the article in our original post here says. She sounds like a young woman with good sense and a kind disposition toward others, not a selfish, spoiled brat. She had a part time job and paid her own bills, did not carry the latest cell phone, did not accept money from her parents, etcetera, contrary to what the newspaper article says. The article was devastating to her.

http://www.theonlinecitizen.com/2008/10/toc-exclusive-agnes-lin-a-victim-of-the-st/

In that article there is a link to her own blog, if you wish to see more personally her reaction to the article.

Personally, I have been supposedly quoted twice in a newspaper. And both times they put words in my mouth, actually made up words and put quotation marks around them. I was also with a friend when she was interviewed by a local paper. Later when I saw the quotes, they were very little like what she had said; it was insulting even.

So now I read quotes of ordinary people with a little skepticism, ready to understand that the words actually spoken may have been completely different, with different --even opposite-- meaning.

[MonkeyMama]

Thanks Joan. I didn't particularly believe it because it seemed quite odd. But, too lazy to look it up.

P.S. I guess it was a real (published) article, but still seems odd to me it would be published in the first place.

[greenskeeper]

eh, at least she didn't kill 4 people and get off because of the "affluenza" defense strategy.

http://www.democracynow.org/2014/2/7/affluenza_defense_lands_wealthy_teen_in

[danielhermann]

What a pity that parents are the worst enemies of children. This poor girl lacks any kind of money sense. She will have no idea how to get on in life. A pity she has not learnt anything from her peer group. Probably, she moves with a circle that is as spoilt as she is. It is very important to teach a child about the value of money, how difficult it is to earn it and that it may not last forever. Else the child will grow up to be financially irresponsible.