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  • If you knew then what you know now about your spouse,

    would you still marry them?

    Money issues are the most common subject of arguments in a marriage. How much do you and your spounse/SO differ on money issues and how do you deal with it?

  • #2
    Originally posted by annibe11e View Post
    would you still marry them?

    Money issues are the most common subject of arguments in a marriage. How much do you and your spounse/SO differ on money issues and how do you deal with it?
    I would marry him over and over again We really dont differ on $ issues. We more learned together. We kind of grew into it together since we were both fairly young.

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    • #3
      Yes, I would marry my spouse all over again.

      We don't really differ on money issues; never have. I mean, no one is always going to agree 100%, but our disagreements have always been very minor and workable. We met young, but had similar financial experiences and personalities before we met.

      Early on we also were very big workers and savers, so have paved a rather easy financial road for ourselves. Stuff happens, but for the most part, I feel like the hard part is well behind us, and I could never imagine fighting over money issues. IF we haven't had any large financial disagreements for the first 18 years...

      Hanging around a place like this forum, I feel extremely blessed. The divorce rate seems so sky high here, but I think it's not surprising because so many come here exactly because they are having marriage money issues or difficulties. It may also just be a sign of the times. It's not like the divorce rate is any less in our own real-life circles (which include a lot of non-financial reasons for divorcing).

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      • #4
        Originally posted by annibe11e View Post
        would you still marry them?

        Money issues are the most common subject of arguments in a marriage. How much do you and your spounse/SO differ on money issues and how do you deal with it?
        I absolutely would not have married him if I had known then what I know now.

        We did not see eye to eye on money. However, we eventually learned to work around that. Money was not the reason for our divorce.

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        • #5
          No, no, no.

          And it wasn't about money.

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          • #6
            Still would have married him. We both had good and bad financial traits so perhaps he should be the one answering this as well. However, we both have learned a lot along the way.

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            • #7
              I would have still married him. We don't have money issues since we don't share money. Fortunately, the only debt we have is our mortgage.

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              • #8
                Yes.

                I can't say we see completely evenly on money. I tend to be the conservative one, and we do disagree about what items are worthy of "top-dollar" spending. We also differ on perception of risk. It's caused us some moments along the way, almost a big one, at one point. But, 10 years later we're still at it and I think we're better for it. We learned together.
                History will judge the complicit.

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                • #9
                  Absolutely. But then again we don't fight about money. If we were to divorce it wouldn't be financial.
                  LivingAlmostLarge Blog

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                  • #10
                    No way in HEdoubletoothpicks!! He is a great guy...but for someone else. Part of it is me and part of it is because of him. We both changed over time. I need companionship and he isn't able to give it. He is also becoming a real butt as time progresses. He is going to be one of those grumpy old men that everyone hates.

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                    • #11
                      Yep. We just celebrated our 25th anniversary and decided to pick up our option for the next 25

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                      • #12
                        Yes, absolutely!

                        We are unique individuals with frequently differing opinions, but are always able to come to an agreement.

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                        • #13
                          I still would have married her. BUT I would have pushed harder earlier to get her mother out of the picture of finance.

                          She was fine, but her mother is a nightmare with money.

                          A perfectly good Ponitac grand am with 75000 miles. Ran good, good maintenance. But Mother In law decided that it had "Too Many Miles" And took the wife (Without me Knowing) to get a Brand new Dodge Stratus (one of the worse depreciation values off the lot ). Wife regreted listening to her mother, but it was done. We moved away from that influence (you have to go through Canada, Fly or boat to get here) and it has been great. Now she sees the problems from a distance and laughs at her mothers poor financial decisions.

                          It has been great since.

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                          • #14
                            I ran a credit check on my husband before we got married, so I knew what I was getting in to. WE do agree on money issues for the most part, but it's a constant struggle for us both to rein in discretionary spending. Either way, I would still do it over again, because of the many ways we are compatible besides just money management. I might not say the same thing if he didn't listen to me, but that's not the case

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                            • #15
                              I would most definitely marry my husband again! We are right for each other. We just had our 18th wedding anniversary.

                              We are both on the same page with all the (what I consider to be) major things in our lives........finances, religion, and raising children.

                              Where we differ???? We often don't enjoy the same recreational activities. He is a golfer. I am not. I love Disney, he really doesn't (but he goes anyway.) He likes to channel surf......drives me nuts......so we usually watch two different TVs.

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