My husband is livid right now

[hamchan]

I got a call earlier today from DHHS in the city where my daughter's dad lives. They needed to verify the amount of child support I am sending him, which means he's applying for government assistance. She already told me that they get food from the food bank regularly. He and his wife are both going to school full time and majoring in film. They are living off of student loans, and now apparently welfare. I think his wife works part time on weekends and he doesn't work at all.

I am a yellow dog Democrat and have no issue with public assistance being available, but it sort of chaps my *** that I went to school full time last year, and worked 25-30 hours a week the entire time because as the child support obliger I do not have the option of just deciding I don't want to work. Not only that but both of them felt the need to choose a major with some of the grimmest employment prospects imaginable. So I am fully expecting to get no help from them when she is ready to go to college herself.

No real point to this thread. Just needed to vent because my XH is a tool.

[shaggy]

That must be frustrating. Try to keep in mind that the support you're sending is for your daughter, and that money will make her life a little bit easier.

[hamchan]

Yeah, I just find it kind of frustrating that I am legally forced to support her financially but he can't be bothered. I would never withhold support from her.

[shaggy]

Yeah, I just find it kind of frustrating that I am legally forced to support her financially but he can't be bothered. I would never withhold support from her.

I know you'd never withhold the support. Just hope social services comes through because that would help your daughter out.

I get frustrated with my ex because he doesn't have any interest in earning money, but he fought me for more alimony than I was legally obligated to pay him and he feels entitled to that money for the rest of his life. He's a nice guy, but lazy and a dreamer (an "artist" who doesn't show his work). I gave in on the alimony because he's my oldest friend and I wanted to stay on good terms, but it really is frustrating.

[QuarterMillionMan]

No Kids, No Ex's, no problemo (lol).

[shaggy]

No Kids, No Ex's, no problemo (lol).

LOL. I did the "no kids" part, and goddess knows there will be no second marriage.

[Thrif-t]

Can your daughter live with you so you don't have to send him support???

[hamchan]

That has been left up to her. So far she hasn't said she'd prefer to live here. But all her friends are there, and she's a teenager so I don't really blame her.

Even if she did live here there is a good chance I'd still have to send him support due to the difference in incomes. It's because of the way child support is calculated in the state where we filed for divorce.