Wonder how you can tell the frugal gene skipped a generation?

[locolorenzo24]

Example...
My brother (who is always in constant "we have no money" mode) came to town. Now, he works as a paralegal, fam of 5, making more than he's ever done. We went out to dinner, a few beers, a club or two, a two brother kinda night...
Sure, once in a while is ok, but I get this "once I get my degree, it'll be like this all the time..." and I almost want to smack him and go..."It's ok, let's just go hit the bennigan's!!"
The most telling example of spending is that we went to a tea shoppe...with about 300 different kinds of tea! He bought a few 100gram bags of different flavors, etc....total bill? $78.00!!! with one tea costing 38 for 100 grams!!! GEEZ!! My 3.30 hot tea paled in comparsion!
I keep wanting to say to him when he spends, spends, spends, than complains..."Maybe that $100 couldv'e been spent better than on some tea!!" Lipton's is 3.00 a box, works fine for me!!
Just a family rant...thanx.

[baselle]

Re: Wonder how you can tell the frugal gene skipped a generation?

His last name isn't Jones, perchance?

[contrary1]

Re: Wonder how you can tell the frugal gene skipped a generation?

I've got a sister that it totally missed too. She has had some tough times, where there was no money..............but, the second she had any, poof...........it was gone. Still that way & I've known her for 50 years now. Gads.
I've talked to my mom about this too, both she & dad have been frugal their whole lives, as I have been..........but my sister, even with a degree in accounting for heavens sake........can't seem to make money or save money. It is frustrating!!

[Ima saver]

Re: Wonder how you can tell the frugal gene skipped a generation?

I have a daughter that has never saved a dime in her life. She owes everyone. She stopped calling me after I quit lending her money. I have probably lent her $50,000 in the last twenty years and never got one dime back. she refuses to grow up, so she is going to have to pay the price.
She is out of my will, she would blow the money in a month! She is adoped, so I guess genes have nothing to do with it, but she has certainly been a disappointment in many ways other than money. Even her children want nothing to do with her because she abandoned them.

[tgavin71]

Re: Wonder how you can tell the frugal gene skipped a generation?

Imasaver. Sounds like your daughter has a few issues and money is just one of them. Hope it all works out for you both.
I am the most frugal out of all my family. My sister and husband have the best of everything but they also work hard for it. Not what I'd call frugal but no irresponsible either.
My BIL and SIL also have the best of everything. THey too have well paying jobs but unlike sister and hubby BIL and SIL go to the club 3-5 nights a week to play pokies and drink. We have been out with them an it is nothing for them to spend $100 in a night. All their "nice things" were bought on credit.
Our house payment lower than there car payment! THere take home pay is nearly double ours.
We have just found out that BIL has asked FIL for money for a house deposit. FIL told him
no. "You made your bed now lie in it " They don't dare ask us for money.
Oh and we both have two children.