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Thanks to all who have responded. I know that misery loves company, but it is actually comforting to know that I am not alone in my struggle!
Based on the analysis I have done, it does make the most sense to keep my car in the long run. I just will not go out and trade up to a new(er) one again like I have done in the past!
As far as the spendthrift spouse is concerned, this is what I have done to regain/retain my sanity. I am going to pay all the bills every month out of our respective accounts, transfer the budgeted amount out of his checking into his savings, and close the door for the rest of the month. I am not going to drive myself crazy over how much money he wastes on other things, as long as the bills are paid and the budgeted amount goes to savings. We still have separate checking accounts, and it is my job to make sure the bills get paid at the beginning of the month, not monitor his daily spending habits. After all, it is HIS money, not mine.
We have a great relationship and I would hate for it to be ruined because we differ in this one area. As long as the big picture goals are being met, the smaller ones (i.e. cutting his discretionary spending) will remain secondary. I will lead by example and hope that my progress will encourage him to follow the same path.
Thanks to all who have responded. I know that misery loves company, but it is actually comforting to know that I am not alone in my struggle!
Based on the analysis I have done, it does make the most sense to keep my car in the long run. I just will not go out and trade up to a new(er) one again like I have done in the past!
As far as the spendthrift spouse is concerned, this is what I have done to regain/retain my sanity. I am going to pay all the bills every month out of our respective accounts, transfer the budgeted amount out of his checking into his savings, and close the door for the rest of the month. I am not going to drive myself crazy over how much money he wastes on other things, as long as the bills are paid and the budgeted amount goes to savings. We still have separate checking accounts, and it is my job to make sure the bills get paid at the beginning of the month, not monitor his daily spending habits. After all, it is HIS money, not mine.
We have a great relationship and I would hate for it to be ruined because we differ in this one area. As long as the big picture goals are being met, the smaller ones (i.e. cutting his discretionary spending) will remain secondary. I will lead by example and hope that my progress will encourage him to follow the same path.
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