Is It Tacky Using Coupons On A First Date?

[Broken Arrow]

That's kind of a cute one! I'd get a laugh over it anyways.

Delivered by the right person and with a certain degree of charm, that would actually be funny and endearing.

Delivered by a creep that you were so desperate to get rid of that you skipped dessert, not so much...

So, it's still good?

*scribbles the one-liner back on his list*

[Gruntina]

Personally in my opinion, financial aspect about a person on a first date is too much information and seems like a huge dive right into seriousness too fast.

But... it really depends on how you met your date prior to the date night. If it is a blind date or a referral or someone you spotted in public for a short time... don't use coupons.

However if it was someone you kind of knew among your friends and so on and they know some things about you... mabye.

Sometimes a coupon can be a good ice-breaker to initiate a date in a casual setting if you know someone.

It really depends but for formal date, I think it's tacky because sometimes comes off that you are more worried about affording the date and that can cause stress or more worry than if you are worried about impressing your date. It just not smooth way to handle things on a first date if both are nervous enough already. It should be a time to enjoy and relax and not stress out wondering what the other person is thinking about finance. Unless you are one who want to do the speed dating thing and to get right into it to not waste time... smile.

[click4credit]

I think it could be a turn off on the first date if they think your trying to be cheap. There may be ways of getting round it though, for example in Australia the Entertainment Book has a Gold Card which looks like a credit card for the more expensive fine dining restaurants. You can simply slip the waiter the card when requesting the bill. As long as you keep the bill to yourself and offer to pay the bill your date may never know. I'm assuming the US Entertainment Book also has a Gold Card...

[marjorie]

I wouldn't want coupons used on the first date. I discovered that when I asked him out for a second date with the "I happen to have coupons for..." he looked really relieved! Not only was I not expecting that he would pay for everything, everytime, but I also had spending limits and was more likely to respect his. JMTC

[PRICEPLUS]

No coupon on first date. I am trying ot impress and a coupon would be frugal butwould not impress. By dates 5 and 6 I would definitely use them! Now that I am married I use them whenever I can! I have two 10 dollar coupons to Legal Seafood and a 100 dollar gift card there as well. Guess where the wife and I are going out to next time we go out!

No, coupons on the first date are tacky! Just my .02 cents and it expresses only my view and does not diminish or call into question the opinions of others here.

[tgavin71]

I'd be fine with my date using coupons. Someone with common cents is hard to find.

[Elgin526]

Yeeeeeeeeaaaaaaaaah... I think it's best to skip the coupon on the first date. If it's the only "off" thing the guy does on the date, one should let it slide. But if you notice that he also ordered the cheapest thing on the menu and only had a glass of water on top of using the coupon, then that's a problem! "Frugal" is one thing, "cheapskate" is quite another!

[markio26]

i don't know of anyone using a coupon on a first date.... i do know that a friend of mine dates when she finds $12.95 meals at tgifridays... and stuff like that.. she uses crackerbarrel dinners too... like the sunday chicken... this way she knows her costs upfront.....if she is the one doing the inviting... i don't know what guys do on the first date... hth....the guys probably overspend in my honest opinon...

[Broken Arrow]

What?! Women will pay for first dates? Where are these magically delicious.... *Cough* Er, yes, you're right of course that men tend to overspend. Perhaps it's a (somewhat irrational) pressure or desire to "impress" the ladies somehow. You know, by throwing money around... as though we have any.

[fairy74]

I'd be fine with my date using coupons. Someone with common cents is hard to find.

My thoughts exactly!

[markio26]

ladies do pay on dates.

brokenarrow:
in ohio and nc, we know several ladies, girls who pay on the first date, if they do the inviting.. and they even keep tabs if the guy pays on one date, they tell him in advance, it is their time to pay on the next date.... we have alot of independent friends like that.. not the moocher ones i write about, who live closer to us....ro always insists on tipping on any date at least 20%. she used to be a barmaid at the vfw and a waitress at a restaurant, now she works for dillards... nikki is an ultrasound tech, and makes about $50000 a year... she plans all her dates and expects to pay and that way no one feels like they are being used.... bev is a young widow, and has passive income, she babysats 3 kids each week and makes good money... she likes to cook and bake for her dates and only likes to go out to a special italian restaurant, she always gets huffed if someone pays for her... we do anyway.... we only take her out once a year and she is always feeding us when we visit her... this is a few of them... they range in age from 25-42 yrs. old.....oh and rachelle is divorced and has 2 sons, she is a control freak and always pays... now, on the other side of the coin, jakie and wally come to mind, they always want to appear rich and take the check... another friend of spouse jim, always uses his citi ford card for points and insists on paying........hth.

[markio26]

just talked to my divorced brother, who has had 3 relationships in the last 2 yrs.. his current gal eileen, is a catholic shool teacher....and when they first hooked up he said, he was overspending, paying $140 for a weekend of events and food with her... then he talked to her and they agreed to bring it down to $40 a weekend, and with their creativity, they are on a diet together, walk together, shop for healthy foods together, select a movie to view together... and they do look for deals and use coupons occasionally, anyway, he said if he is low on funds or she is, they simply change to an evening at her place or his......i guess communication is the key, after the first few dates and honesty...

[Snoopy2645]

I once gave a guy I was on a date with a coupon to use on my meal I was trying to save him money!!! BTW it was our first date too. But he wasnt my cup of tea so it was the end of the end

[fairy74]

I once gave a guy I was on a date with a coupon to use on my meal I was trying to save him money!!! BTW it was our first date too. But he wasnt my cup of tea so it was the end of the end

I love it! Good for you

[bigsaver]

I wish I had a coupon for the place I went to on my first date.