Do you find it hard to splurge?

[Gruntina]

Re: Do you find it hard to splurge?

[QUOTE=tinapbeana]wanted to bump this up b/c i think it's important.

i'm confused by folks willing to splurge on others but not themselves. splurging occasionally on others shows you care. splurging occasionally on others and refusing to do so for yourself implies you care more for the other peope than you do for yourself, or at the very least they are more deserving somehow.

ummmm.... no.

i find little splurges that are built in to my budget make it much easier for me to enjoy my life. if i'm enjoying life on my budget, i'm that much more likely to stick to it!

tinabeana - That is a good point you came across on

I will be honest to say I am guilty of giving more towards others and not put myself on the same level of care on my self. Overtime I started to become resentful of the others since my personal accomplishment did not fully happen in the amount of timeframe I have hoped(my own stupid fault and not theirs!). I am finally breaking that repeating pattern I have had for many years. I do notice with my own eyes that a lot of people I know are unconsciously willing to adjust their life to whoever they are with.

"Those who receive not, asked not" is a phrase that often describes myself. I now have a whole lot of asking to do and I am not going to feel guilty about it but at the same time I would like to treat others how I would treat myself and not treat myself less but still on a frugal nature for everyone and in fairness. The relationship is different among spouses, family and good friends so fairness is interpreted differently among those.

[Broken Arrow]

Re: Do you find it hard to splurge?

Well, as a guy, I am lucky in that I can come across as a money-grubbing jerk and ... somehow that will seem to fly.

Seriously though, while I do splurge on others when it's appropriate, I try my very best to keep things all well within my budget. And yes, sometimes, it means that I have to say "no".

I just realized that I wrote incorrectly earlier. The more I seriously want to splurge on something, the more I will agonize over it. In fact, my ex used to joke about how I look like I am about to bust a vein when I am about to spend money.