Pre-nuptial Agreement?

[rob62521]

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I agree with Broken Arrow; I think things do happen. Some friends of ours were married for 35 years -- two grown kids. Out of the blue he decided he wanted out of the marriage because he decided he wanted to come out since he was gay. He fooled everyone, even his family. The whole incident was a huge mess with assets.

I don't think it's a matter of doubts; I think a prenup it just a way to protect both sides. People change through the years.

[Ima saver]

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If I got married late in life and had assets to leave my daughter, I might. But as i am not leaving her anything, I will just draw up a will leaving my assets to you guys!!

[Snoopy2645]

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Well dh & I didnt do one & I already had my own house & own money & all of that also had a child from previous relationship. But Dh has been working the whole time we been together which is almost 8 yrs & always paid for at least his half & some years paid everything when I didnt work. I never planned on marrying him I honestly had my cake & ate it too.

However when I was expecting baby#3 & didnt have health ins anymore I married him just for the ins coverage. I am positive if we split since I would have the 3 girls I would get to keep the house. Which is really the only asset I have besides my car and the
house is still in my name souly. so no I dont regret not getting one however if I had alot of money & I married a guy who didnt want to work & help with the family I woud get one then!!!

[PRICEPLUS]

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Well, in my case I did not have the proverbial pot nor the window to throw it out of. I guess pre-nups are good for wealthy folks but the issue is moot for my marriage!

[Homebody]

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I think they are appropriate under certain circumstances. I should precept this by saying we are celebrating our 28th anniversary next month and had $300.00 in the bank when we got married.

I jokingly brought it up to DSIL and YD at the dinner table one night before their 4th of July wedding. I said you don't have anything right to DSIL. At 19 he didn't and 18 year old daughter doesn't either. (They will have a dandy little nest egg though that is already started.)

However, I also have 25 and 27 year old daughters who both own their own homes. Depending what state they marry in, I have already advised them to get prenupts to protect the houses. I don't expect my children to get divorced, but if they do, they certainly should get the equity they put into their houses before the rest of the assests are split.

So in conclusion, I would say it all depends, but having seen my siblings divorce and friends divorce, I am not against them.

[rusty@saving]

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nothing to lose from either of us, so no, we will not do a prenup, on the other hand, if i thought for a second she would be screwing me over anyways, then i need to think twice about getting married in the first place.

[Jaynen]

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I know this can become a very heated discussion (I have had it many times with friends and people I have dated) so I won't reference anyone's remarks, but truth of the matter is noone ever really knows whether or not anything is going to last forever; it is one of those things that is unforeseeable. That being the case you should plan accordingly, if losing the things that are of value to you is a concern that you have; not because you don't trust the person, but because it is the responsible thing to do since you know not whether or not the relationship will last forever. Now, many people are going to get defensive and say "but we're in love......" come down off the high horse and realize we are all human beings and make mistakes, sometimes those mistakes cause other not to want to be around us anymore, hence if they had a pre-nuptial agreement in place we would have a lot harder time taking their assets that we really don't deserve because we did nothing to help acquire them.

Now, there are of course many variable that come into play, but in the most basic answer I'll say Yes, yes, and yes (I would sign one, I WILL have whoever I marry sign one, and I'll encourage everyone I know who cares about losing stuff to sign one).

[vsjhoc]

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I think they are appropriate under certain circumstances. I should precept this by saying we are celebrating our 28th anniversary next month and had $300.00 in the bank when we got married.


However, I also have 25 and 27 year old daughters who both own their own homes. Depending what state they marry in, I have already advised them to get prenupts to protect the houses. I don't expect my children to get divorced, but if they do, they certainly should get the equity they put into their houses before the rest of the assests are split.

Congrats on being married for 28 years!

I think the house issue depends on the state where the house is, not where the marriage ceremony takes place.

[Ima saver]

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I owned my own house when I got married and I did not put it in my husband's name. I never thought about him asking for half the house if we ever divorced. I guess I should have. In that case I should have had a prenup.