Why am I incapable of outsourcing!!!

[FIREseeker]

I really can't do everything myself. I'm running myself ragged. So why do I HATE having other people do ANYTHING for me.

I always find myself thinking, "If you want something done right, you've got to do it yourself."

But I know that's not true and it's self-absorbed to think so. Ugh. How can I get past this? Maybe I need hypnotized.

[Jluke]

I recommend you google Time vs Money.

you will find a few articles that put things in perspective.

Is your time more valuable to you or can you "afford" to do all of these things on your own. Here afford does not mean $$, it means hrs and minutes.

For instance, I can afford 45 minutes to cut my grass.

Topping off 20 arborvitae in my backyard - I pay someone to do that.

[John Doe]

It boils down to surrounding yourself with only people that you respect and trust. That's it. If you surround yourself with mediocre people, then you'll always be forced to do stuff that others should do. Don't settle for less. Seek out people that have the same level of seriousness and skill that you do. Chances are, they're also looking for people like you. It may be fun and relaxing to be around losers, but you'll never get anywhere or get anything accomplished.

[FLA]

It may be fun and relaxing to be around losers, but you'll never get anywhere or get anything accomplished.

I do not get what you are saying? Why do you think he hangs with losers?

I was a single mom with two kids, working full time. My time that should've been kid time was cleaning, laundry, lawn care, shopping time. Someone said get a cleaning lady, now I was not raised that way. You take care of everything and don't waste money on things like that. EVER. Well, I was exhausted, I called a woman recommended to me and she would come twice a month for $30 a pop. Why hadn't I done this sooner? She's cheaper than cable. The stress relief was enormous. And she was so good I referred her to so many people who also referred her, that she never raised my rate. I combined households with my folks, my mom is ill, this woman has become practically a member of my family. She comes for dinner sometimes, she visits my mom every few days. She has this gentle way about her and my mom feels comfortable telling her when things aren't good and she cries, Tammy comforts her. Best financial move ever.

I also started free online grocery delivery from a local store, you got the low prices in that week's ad, you could use coupons and they did a great job. I need to set that up here. To me, it's like why wouldn't I do this if it's free, saves me time and energy and stops me from buying on impulse. Is that lazy? Maybe you could see it that way, but no one is watching how productive you are, you're judging yourself.

scrubbing a toilet is scrubbing a toilet, how bad can someone mess that up that you don't feel comfortable outsourcing it?

maybe pick the one thing that you hate the most and try outsourcing it, see how it goes

[Weird Tolkienish Figure]

I really can't do everything myself. I'm running myself ragged. So why do I HATE having other people do ANYTHING for me.

I always find myself thinking, "If you want something done right, you've got to do it yourself."

But I know that's not true and it's self-absorbed to think so. Ugh. How can I get past this? Maybe I need hypnotized.

I actually doubt this is true, unless you are forgoing seeing a doctor.

[snafu]

While some tasks benefit from perfection, a great many repetitive things can be viewed as done is good enough. Many tasks can be sourced to the person with capability but lack of experience. Repetition will allow them to build on capabilities and eventually do the task as well as you, albeit taking more time. You might give another a 'head's up' on your philosophy that any job worth doing is worth doing well! That is their challenge.

Are you willing to make an effort to seek more balance?

Off topic...I've a friend who I believe has the obsessive, compulsive habit of 'hand washing' and I'm at a loss and don't know what to say. It's so uncomfortable I'm declining joining her for tea and a visit. She hasn't been able to go out for a long time. Nothing is clean enough.

[FLA]

Off topic...I've a friend who I believe has the obsessive, compulsive habit of 'hand washing' and I'm at a loss and don't know what to say. It's so uncomfortable I'm declining joining her for tea and a visit. She hasn't been able to go out for a long time. Nothing is clean enough.[/QUOTE]

I've seen OCD go into remission or seemingly disappear with a combo of meds/therapy. Anecdotally, it seems to get better faster than say someone with major depression.

I was friends with a woman who had it pretty bad and would not get help, then she dates a guy, eventually marries him, and guess what he has? OCD. So he had all these quicks, like having to check the water heater and furnace 3 times before he could leave the house and immediately do the same when he got home. She had a bunch of rituals she had to do before she could leave the house. It took them forever to leave the house and it seemed like one having OCD made the other's OCD worse. It was bad, my friend was going to be fired unless she did something because it was affecting her ability to be productive and on time. I could not stand visiting and watching both of their time-consuming rituals.

they each went to a different psychiatrist, got meds, did therapy and within a month hers seemed totally gone, in two months so was his. Did therapy for a while longer. It's now been over ten yrs, they are still on low dose meds and it's like they never had OCD. Not once a problem with it since. Felt like a miracle.

[Fishindude77]

A buddy and I have kind of an inside joke about this.
I can buy one of those things for $100, but I can make one myself for $200. Sometimes we're just hard headed like that?

[Joan.of.the.Arch]

Prohojii, that is a question for an admin, and I don't think they are likely to see your question in this old thread. It seems the way to contact them right now is via the following thread: http://www.savingadvice.com/forums/g...ng-advice.html You probably will need to give more information about the incident you ask about, as I just counted that there are 155 members whose user name begins with "Rob." Which Rob?